The couple, who've been together for five years, got engaged after she inherited a house following the death of her mother. Now though, her partner is 'being manipulative' over the property
A woman has been urged to “run” and leave her partner of five years after he took it upon himself to invite a lawyer to her home.
Seven months ago, the woman’s mother died - her only remaining parent - and left her house to her, which the woman became the official owner of three months ago. Around this time, her partner proposed to her, telling her that now she owns a house, it “made him feel like [they] were ready to be married”.
Just a few days ago, her partner suggested she “add his name onto the title of the house” and he’s been quite “persistent about it”. According to him, this is a “necessary” step “to ensure ‘balance in [their] relationship and marriage’”.
On Reddit, the woman said she’s never “made him feel like he’s inferior” in their relationship. She also makes more money than him so is confused how adding his name onto the deeds of the house would “change anything”.
She explained: “Since he insisted, and since we've been together for a long time and we're engaged now, I decided to do it but only after we get married. He disagreed and insisted we get it done before we get married. After a lot of back and forth on this, I told him to drop it and wait till after marriage.”
The woman got a shock yesterday, though, when she went home and discovered he’d brought a real estate lawyer to “arrange for the legal process to start now”. She continued: “I was completely shocked because I never agreed to hire a lawyer, let alone bring him to the house. I immediately asked the lawyer to leave. He tried to speak but I told him he needed to leave.”
He was silent until the lawyer left but then told her she had behaved selfishly and was being “disrespectful not to the lawyer, but to him and what [they] agreed on”. The woman added: “I told him his pushing made me re-consider the whole thing now and he looked shocked and hurt then stormed out.
“We continued fighting over the phone and he didn't stop talking about how stubborn and selfish I have been lately. He said he was trying his best to provide a stable living situation for us before we get married but I was being uncooperative.”
He has since started “completely ignoring” her calls. Fellow Reddit users were keen to share their thoughts. One person said: “He clearly wants a piece of your property, likely through a divorce. DO NOT MARRY. DO NOT GET PREGNANT. RUN.”
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Another said: “He’s acting entitled to something that belongs solely to you. The timing of his proposal after you inherited the house is also suspicious. RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!”
A third commented: “He's being manipulative. Bringing a lawyer to the house without your consent is a massive violation of trust.”
Someone else advised: “Make sure your will is up to date, lock your credit” while another quipped: “I wonder what would've happened had you asked the lawyer if he did pre-nups also.”
Another added: “You have been given a gift to see your boyfriend’s mask drop before you get married. Proceed very carefully from this point on. Your fiancé may be more attracted to your assets than to you, yourself. If you make him sign a prenup, he might lose interest and find someone else less cautious. Red flag, for sure.”