'My husband goes out once a month with friends – that's far too often'

A woman is seething at her husband because she thinks he is going out too frequently with his friends. But after she revealed how often he was gallivanting, people online were left confused.

The woman explained on Mumsnet that she and her husband have a two-year-old son, and she works "part-time" for "three days", and looks after her son "two days a week". Her husband works "full-time".

She said the two days with her son are "spent at mum classes, soft play, doing errands, chores, shopping etc", and they "have weekends off" to do whatever they please.

The mum explained: "Husband has one full night a week doing a hobby. He's started meeting a friend from this on a weekend day, maybe once a month. He either takes our son, and I am just at home alone, or I have him.

"He does Xmas nights out with other friends (none have families of their own) and is now trying to organise more regular meet-ups with other male friends from his hobby (they either have grown-up children or no kids). Am I being unreasonable to think that this is too much?"

She shared that she has "no one to go out with" when she has days off, and her "friends are all mums and are busy with breastfeeding babies, or pregnant, or with their families, or busy on weekends and not remotely interested in evening or weekend meet-ups".

In the comments, some were shocked that she thought that was too much, with one writing: "One meet-up once a month? No, it's not too much. Especially if he is also taking the kiddo with him sometimes. Your lack of a supportive social circle really isn't a good reason for him to stay at home. You can just as easily get a hobby on one of the four evenings during the week."

Another shared: "I don’t think one night a week doing something and one night out a month is unreasonable. I do think it feels off because you’re not doing the same. If he’d happily facilitate you being out the same, he’s not doing anything wrong. Perhaps consider finding something for yourself." A third Mumsnet user even said she should consider joining a "choir or a book club" to keep herself busy.

Someone else penned: "I think you need to find some child-free time for yourself, even if it’s doing more than sitting at home when he takes the baby out. What he is doing doesn’t sound excessive."